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Réka Koszta

  • 2026: New Year, New Me? Or just a new date on the calendar?

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    Réka

    Réka Koszta

    Why most New Year’s resolutions fail

    Every January, many of us start the year with the familiar ritual: the New Year’s resolution list.

    Eat healthier.
    Go to the gym regularly.
    Change habits.
    Become a “new me.”

    And it prompted this post when I recently tried to sign up for a Body Pump class at my gym. Not only was the class full — even the waiting list was full. When I mentioned it to Andrew, he simply smiled and said:
    “It’s January. Everyone’s resolution is to go to the gym.”

    And that’s when it hit me.

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  • I want a man: Unrealistic expectations in relationships

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    Réka

    Réka Koszta

    When “Wanting a Man, Not a Baby” backfires

    Unrealistic expectations in relationships are one of the most common — and least discussed — reasons why pair-bonding can feel frustrating, disappointing, or emotionally draining.

    “I want a man, not a baby.”

    I once came across this sentence at the end of a long list written by a woman in her late thirties. The list was titled something like “The Type of Man I Want”. While I no longer remember most of the items, that final statement stayed with me.

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  • How to set goals in a positive way

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    Réka

    Réka Koszta

    Stopping self-sabotage your goal by simply reframing your mindset

    I have decided to get rid of my “granny/bingo arms”, as I call them. Most women will know what I am talking about. Anyway, I told myself that it can’t go on like this as I don’t like photos of myself. Andrew doesn’t see what I am talking about when I am bitching about the quality of my arms. But it seems I am the lucky one here as my partner’s eyesight is not that good anymore, so he doesn’t see things as they are. He is even talking about the possibility of needing glasses soon. And when he gets his glasses, he will see very well what the issue is with my arms. So, I had better act before that happens. 

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  • Suspended in mid-air: What happens after the leap of faith

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    Réka

    Réka Koszta

    I thought taking a leap of faith would feel like flying… but instead, I found myself floating in mid-air. Here’s what I learned in the “in-between” phase — and why I’d still choose the leap again.

    Because the “in-between” is part of the journey.

    One of my very first posts on this blog is titled “Deciding to Change My Life: Leaping Without a Net” https://crystalclearbyreka.blog/general-topics/deciding-to-change-my-life-leaping-without-a-net/

    Think of this piece as the mid-air update—what happened after my feet actually left the ground.

    Back then, I was preparing to leave my “cozy” corporate bubble and step into a world where I could build something of my own. I took courses, practiced my new profession, and did all the “right” things to get ready. On paper, I looked prepared. But deep down, something still felt… unfinished.

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