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  • The most common communication mistake in everyday conversations at home


    Reflecting on a common communication mistake and why listening deeply at home matters as much as at work.

    The wake-up moment: a lesson from “Supercommunicators

    I spend my days helping people feel heard, understood, and supported—yet I recently realized I often fail at this in my own everyday conversations. As a life coach, I pride myself on listening deeply, but a moment of uncomfortable self-recognition while reading Supercommunicators by Charles Duhigg forced me to pause and reflect. What if the communication skills I practice professionally aren’t fully showing up where they matter most—at home, with the people I love?

    “…I’ve tried to have learning conversations in every part of my life, and it has helped me listen more than I used to. (I’m getting better, though my wife, just last week, asked how a rambling dinnertime monologue might align with some of the advice in this book.)”

    Supercommunicators by Charles Duhigg

    I had an aha moment and knew—oops, this is me. At home, I often launch into long monologues with Andrew, confidently sharing my thoughts on different topics, rarely pausing to ask his opinion. Somewhere along the way, I convinced myself that my perspective was so insightful it deserved the spotlight. What I realized, however, is that effective communication is not about being interesting—it’s about being interested.

    Letting go of the need to be right

    One of my biggest takeaways from this book is that listening should not be reserved only for my professional role as a life coach. At work, I carefully listen to emotions, ideas, and unspoken needs, helping others find clarity and strength within themselves. At home, with the people I love the most, I need to offer that same presence, curiosity, and humility.

    Yes, I may be good at certain things—but not everything. Strong communication in relationships requires space, not dominance. It requires pausing, asking questions, and allowing other voices to matter just as much as my own.

    Charles Duhigg’s journey and his desire to understand what makes some people so good at connecting through communication is brilliant. Supercommunicators is filled with powerful insights about human connection, emotional intelligence, and the psychology of meaningful conversations. Reading it humbled me. It reminded me that self-awareness is a lifelong practice. I am not as skilled as I sometimes believe—but I am willing to learn. And that willingness is where growth begins.

    Years ago, I learned that perfection is not the goal. Progress is. Becoming just a little bit better in the areas that truly matter—like connection, empathy, and relationships—is enough. Communication shapes our relationships, and relationships shape our lives. That makes paying attention to how we listen not optional, but essential.

    Why connection matters more than success

    In my previous career in finance, Continuous Professional Development was mandatory. Every year, we signed up for courses to maintain high professional standards. I now believe we should apply the same mindset to our personal lives. We should actively learn how to communicate better with our families, how to show up emotionally, and how to support others in ways that serve them, not our own egos.

    How many of us overlook these skills because career growth feels more urgent? I know I still do sometimes. Acknowledging it is uncomfortable—but necessary. Writing this down is my way of holding myself accountable, creating something I can return to when I lose focus.

    Because success without connection leads to isolation. When there is no one to share your achievements with, even the biggest wins feel empty. Real fulfillment comes from relationships built on understanding, listening, and mutual respect.

    So I am choosing connection first—trusting that everything else will follow.

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  • Archetypes in Astrology and Jungian Psychology


    A shared language of the psyche

    Explore how archetypes from Greek mythology connect astrology and Jungian psychology, revealing patterns of personality, growth, and self-awareness.

    One of the cornerstones of astrology is Greek mythology, which is fundamentally built on archetypes. These archetypes represent universal patterns of human behavior, motivation, and inner experience.

    Several years ago, I read a powerful book by Jean Shinoda Bolen1, Goddesses in Everywoman. The book deeply resonated with me — not only on a psychological level, but also through the lens of my astrological knowledge and how we understand personality through the natal chart.

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  • The importance of gratitude. Amazing research on how it rewires the brain.


    What prompted me to look into being grateful a bit deeper.

    One of my best friends embarked on a new journey last year. She decided to develop a new product that she wanted to sell online. She put a great deal of thought into it and created a full product range. One of these is a 90-day Gratitude Journal, designed to help people sit down each day and reflect on what they are grateful for.

    I truly want her to succeed, so I joined the project and began researching the theme and come up with content ideas — such as what kind of reels could introduce her product range and how to make it visible to a wider audience.

    As I started researching, I was surprised to discover that there is actual neuroscientific research showing how our brains are rewired when we take time to practice gratitude daily — even for the smallest things in our lives.

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  • NLP goal setting (part 3): What happens when you start using your senses?


    Discover how sensory-based NLP goal setting helps you achieve sustainable change. Learn how language, emotions, and perception turn goals into action.

    Why sensory-based goals turn intention into lasting change

    In this final part, we go one step deeper.

    Because even a positively framed goal won’t last if it only exists on paper — it needs to be experienced.

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  • My view on astrology – as a self-awareness tool for personal growth


    Astrology is not about predicting the future. It’s a tool for self-awareness, choice, and personal growth. Discover a grounded, responsible approach to astrology.

    A grounded perspective on astrology, choice, and personal responsibility

    Astrology is often misunderstood as something mystical or deterministic. For me, it is neither. I see astrology as a symbolic and energetic framework that helps us understand ourselves better — while always leaving responsibility, choice, and direction firmly in our own hands. Astrology will increase self awareness if you are approach it with common sense.

    A rational background and an esoteric interest

    If you are reading my blog, you will probably notice that I am quite esoteric. In my case, this doesn’t mean that I conduct my life based on how the stars are aligned. My core education is in law and finance — and if there is anything far from being esoteric, it is these two fields (except perhaps engineering and other hard sciences).

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  • Do you expect that someone else will fix your life?


    Unrealistic expectations in relationships often include expecting a partner to fix your life. Here’s why that never works.

    One of the most damaging unrealistic expectations in relationships sounds something like this:

    “My life is a disaster. I’m unattractive, unsuccessful, broke — but when I find my perfect match, everything will fall into place and I’ll finally be happy.”

    Or, as phrased in the original list that inspired this mini-series:
    “I want a man who makes me happy and lifts me up.”

    How many of us have entertained this belief at some point? And more importantly — is it realistic?

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  • The NLP goal-setting: How to set goals that actually work


    Discover how NLP goal setting goes beyond SMART goals and why using positive language can dramatically improve motivation and success.

    • Specific
    • Measurable
    • Authentic (often referred to as Attainable)
    • Realistic
    • Time-bound

    While SMART goals are helpful, the aim of this article is to introduce a slightly adjusted NLP goal-setting technique. Although less well known, it often creates far greater and more sustainable results — because this is where real NLP begins.

    Let me explain why.

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  • The Zeus (Jupiter) Archetype – Chief deity who holds strong power


    Chief deity in the Greek Pantheon between the 12 Olympian gods. God of the Sky, the Thunderer.

    Zeus — known as Jupiter in Roman mythology — is the supreme ruler of Greek mythology. From the heights of Mount Olympus, he governs both gods and humans, embodying authority, leadership, and power. While immensely influential, Zeus is not omnipotent; rather than constant direct intervention, he often exercises control from a distance, reinforcing hierarchy and order.

    Mythological Context

    Zeus is the youngest son of Cronus and Rhea. To prevent a prophecy that one of his children would overthrow him, Cronus swallowed each newborn — except Zeus, who was hidden by Rhea. Zeus later returned, led a successful rebellion against the Titans, and claimed dominion over the sky.

    His reign is marked by alliances, authority, and numerous relationships with goddesses and mortal women, producing many offspring. These unions strengthened his influence and extended his legacy throughout mythology — a key theme of the Zeus archetype.

    In astrology, Jupiter is one of the most significant planets in the natal chart. Visible to the naked eye, it was known and revered by ancient astronomers and astrologers. Jupiter symbolizes expansion, opportunity, faith, and growth.

    There is also an asteroid named Zeus (5731), discovered in 1988. When both a planet and an asteroid share the same archetypal name, astrologers distinguish their meaning:

    • Jupiter represents the higher, expansive, constructive expression of the archetype
    • Asteroid Zeus reflects the human, shadow, and ego-driven expression

    The asteroid is considered only when it is strongly placed or prominently activated in the chart.

    Jupiter (Zeus) in astrology

    Jupiter is the largest planet in the solar system. Being the largest planet we associate expansion, growth with it.

    Jupiter represents in the natal chart:

    • Lucky chance, business opportunities: we feel we are lucky in that area of life in which house our Jupiter is.
    • Wealth, security, expansion
    • Higher learning, influencing, philosophical believes 
    • Wisdom, seeing the big picture while not getting lost in the details
    • Faith in the future               

    Asteroid Zeus:

    • The seducer, the cheeky one – usually with a prominent Zeus the individual has a lot of lovers, maybe more marriages. It doesn’t mean that the person is a good lover. He enjoys more of the part of concurring the woman rather wooing her after he feels he reached his goal.
    • Arrogance – he can be strong headed and thinking that only his ways are working. He forces his will to his environment. Let it be within the family, at work or at his own business.
    • Rigid: he doesn’t want to change the status quo.
    • The person who is craving power and willing to get it. Even if he has to overstep other people to achieve his goal

    Zeus archetype in psychology

    • The king, the ruler: this archetype is a natural leader due to his ambitions and talent. He is inspired by the power above his own territory, let that territory be only a family, a business or a country.
    • Determined/ definite moves: he has very good view on the big picture but still the small details are not neglected by him. When he wants to get something he focuses on it and without missing a beat he gets it even at the cost of ruining other people
    • Master of alliances (both through business and through marriages): he is very much capable to work together with other powerful men. He is excelling at summits, agreeing alliances, and setting boundaries as well as negotiating alliances that is  beneficial for each party. He expects from the others to participate in the negotiations pursuing their own well understood interest and he acts exactly like that. For him marriage is more an alliance that helps him build his empire than an act of love.
    • The charmer / seducer: once he decides who he would like to get he will do everything to get close to the woman in question.
    • The “father” in the sky: he has strong desire to have kids as he sees them the continuation of his empire. He is a mentor type of father, but he expects that the children acts according to his will.

    How Zeus comes out in every day life in different life stages

    Childhood and Early Years

    A Zeus child reveals himself very early. He is strong-willed, decisive, and determined to assert control over his environment. This is the child who says “no” instinctively—not as rebellion, but as a declaration of autonomy. He wants to test limits, establish authority, and experience himself as the one who decides.

    From a young age, he begins to build his own miniature world in which he is the leader. Power dynamics matter to him, and he instinctively seeks situations where he can exercise influence. The most effective way to guide a Zeus child is not through force, but by offering structured choices—allowing him to feel in control while still operating within boundaries.

    Adolescence and Young Adulthood

    As a teenager, the Zeus archetype naturally gravitates toward leadership roles. He is often the captain of a sports team, the center of a social group, or surrounded by loyal followers who form his “court.” Popularity and hierarchy become important, and he tends to associate with those who reinforce his status.

    Romantic relationships are often approached as conquests rather than emotional connections. He seeks partners who enhance his image and position. During this stage, Zeus begins to understand hierarchy more consciously—accepting the world as it is, while simultaneously plotting how to secure his place at the top.

    Adulthood and Professional Life

    In the workplace, Zeus rarely sees himself as subordinate for long. He quickly believes he could perform better than those above him and instinctively analyzes systems, structures, and strategies. Leadership comes naturally to him, and he does not require instruction on how to take charge, work hard, or identify opportunities.

    He is emotionally detached in professional settings and expects the same from others, which can make him appear cold or authoritarian. He is not easily distracted by personal matters and views work as a means to build his empire—whether that is a business, a leadership position, or a legacy within an organization.

    Everything in his life becomes subordinate to this long-term goal. Marriage, when it occurs, is often approached as a strategic alliance rather than a romantic bond. It serves a purpose in supporting his ambitions rather than fulfilling emotional needs.

    Family and Fatherhood

    Zeus desires children as an extension of his legacy. He sees them as the continuation of what he has built. As a father, he often takes on a mentoring role rather than an emotionally nurturing one. He teaches through expectation, discipline, and example.

    However, he expects obedience and alignment with his values. The family system operates according to his rules, and emotional closeness may be limited. Children raised under a dominant Zeus father often experience structure, security, and guidance—but may also perceive emotional distance and rigidity.

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  • Seeing the Big Picture: How perspective helps you solve life’s challenges


    Learn how visualising the bigger picture — just like solving a puzzle — can help you break patterns, gain clarity, and approach life’s challenges with intention and awareness.

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      Thanks for sharing these insights and ideas… it’s so powerful to change perspectives and think about taking a new approach.

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  • What puzzles can teach us about life: How changing perspective helps you get unstuck


    Feeling stuck in life or relationships? Discover how changing perspective — inspired by puzzles — can unlock clarity, growth, and solutions.

    One of my favourite pastimes is doing puzzles — and the more complicated they are, the more I enjoy them. Over the years, many people have asked me how I manage to complete them so quickly. The answer is surprisingly simple.

    I rely on two core principles:

    1. I change my perspective whenever I feel stuck.
    2. I check the “instruction” — the small reference image that shows the full picture I’m working towards.

    Recently, I realised how powerfully these same principles apply to everyday life and problem-solving — often multiple times a day.

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