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Réka Koszta

  • What puzzles can teach us about life: How changing perspective helps you get unstuck

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    Réka

    Réka Koszta

    Feeling stuck in life or relationships? Discover how changing perspective — inspired by puzzles — can unlock clarity, growth, and solutions.

    One of my favourite pastimes is doing puzzles — and the more complicated they are, the more I enjoy them. Over the years, many people have asked me how I manage to complete them so quickly. The answer is surprisingly simple.

    I rely on two core principles:

    1. I change my perspective whenever I feel stuck.
    2. I check the “instruction” — the small reference image that shows the full picture I’m working towards.

    Recently, I realised how powerfully these same principles apply to everyday life and problem-solving — often multiple times a day.

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  • Unrealistic expectations in relationships (Part 2):

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    Réka

    Réka Koszta

    Why People Don’t Change for Love

    For part 1 see:

    https://crystalclearbyreka.blog/relationships/i-want-a-man/

    Unrealistic expectations in relationships often begin with long wish lists — and almost always end in disappointment. When we search for a partner while carrying an extensive checklist, failure is nearly guaranteed.

    Instead, we need to look inward and identify the two or three qualities that are truly essential to us. These core values should be present from the very beginning. No one is perfect — but it is enough if your partner is perfect for you.

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  • 2026: New Year, New Me? Or just a new date on the calendar?

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    Réka

    Réka Koszta

    Why most New Year’s resolutions fail

    Every January, many of us start the year with the familiar ritual: the New Year’s resolution list.

    Eat healthier.
    Go to the gym regularly.
    Change habits.
    Become a “new me.”

    And it prompted this post when I recently tried to sign up for a Body Pump class at my gym. Not only was the class full — even the waiting list was full. When I mentioned it to Andrew, he simply smiled and said:
    “It’s January. Everyone’s resolution is to go to the gym.”

    And that’s when it hit me.

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  • I want a man: Unrealistic expectations in relationships

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    Réka

    Réka Koszta

    When “Wanting a Man, Not a Baby” backfires

    Unrealistic expectations in relationships are one of the most common — and least discussed — reasons why pair-bonding can feel frustrating, disappointing, or emotionally draining.

    “I want a man, not a baby.”

    I once came across this sentence at the end of a long list written by a woman in her late thirties. The list was titled something like “The Type of Man I Want”. While I no longer remember most of the items, that final statement stayed with me.

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